Take Up Your Cross | A Sermon on Matthew 16:21-28

Introduction
Can you imagine what it was like to be a Disciple who walked with Jesus for three years?  To have heard His amazing teaching first hand?  To have experienced His loving grace?  To have seen Him perform the amazing miracles–feeding 5000 with just 5 loaves of bread and 2 fish, walking on water and calming the stormy sea, healing the blind and the deaf and making the lame walk?  Walking with Jesus on the earth must have been an amazing experience for the 12 disciples.  And they sensed something great was about to happen as they made their way toward Jerusalem.  Was their Messiah finally going to kick out their Roman oppressors and restore Israel?  They hoped He would as the felt His ministry rising toward a great climax.  And Jesus knew their hopes and expectations when He spoke in Matthew 16:21-28.

Matthew 16:21-28
²¹ From that time on Jesus began to explain to his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things at the hands of the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and that he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.

²² Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. “Never, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to you!”

²³ Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns.”

²⁴ Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. ²⁵ For whoever wants to save their life^[f] will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. ²⁶ What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul? ²⁷ For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what they have done.

²⁸ “Truly I tell you, some who are standing here will not taste death before they see the Son of Man coming in his kingdom.”

What Does It Truly Mean To Follow Jesus?
Jesus was determined to go to Jerusalem to face the cross and fulfill His mission to die for the sins of the world. Now, He tells His followers that each of us must carry a cross of our own.

This is part of what it means to be His disciple.
Each of us must face the question: what does it truly mean to follow Jesus?

The disciples knew exactly what a cross was. Today, people often think of crosses as decorations in a church or pieces of jewelry. For Christians, the cross has become a beautiful symbol of God’s redeeming love. But the twelve disciples who walked with Jesus had seen people dying in agony on crosses. Sometimes those crosses stood along the roadside, placed there by the Romans to warn anyone who might challenge their power. So when Jesus spoke about carrying a cross, His words had a very clear and serious meaning.

Peter’s Rebuke
And Peter didn’t like it. Peter wanted nothing to do with a cross—not for himself, and certainly not for his beloved Lord. Peter knew Jesus was the Messiah, the Son of the living God. He had just said so in the passage before this one, and Jesus had praised him for his faith.

But Peter did not yet understand the true nature and purpose of the Messiah.

He was still thinking about political and military victory: overthrow Rome, restore Israel, and establish power. His vision was of a limited, earthly kingdom. Maybe he was remembering the glory days of King David’s rule. Or perhaps he was thinking of the more recent Hasmonean kingdom that arose after the Maccabean revolt—the Jewish uprising that people still remember today when they celebrate Hanukkah.

So when Jesus says, “I must suffer and be killed…,” Peter hears something very different. What he hears is, “Our movement is going to fail.” And Peter tries to protect Jesus—to protect the movement, and maybe even to protect his own dream of being part of the Messiah’s inner circle in a free and powerful Jewish nation.

But Jesus knows that His true purpose is far greater than Peter’s limited understanding.

Jesus’ Temptation
There’s something important we need to notice here. Jesus was tempted by Peter’s vision. Who wouldn’t be?

Imagine a choice like a game show. Behind door number one is suffering and death on a cross. Behind door number two is ruling as the powerful king of a free and independent Jewish nation—greater even than the glory of Solomon’s kingdom. Which would you choose?

It’s very tempting. Even for Jesus. In fact, it sounds a lot like what Satan said to Him when He was fasting in the wilderness for forty days. Do you remember the temptation? Satan said, “All this I will give you…if you will bow down and worship me.” (Matthew 4:8–9)

Peter’s vision of the kingdom sounded easier. It promised success without suffering. But Jesus knew that God’s plan was far greater and far deeper. He had to reject Peter’s human vision because it led away from the cross.

So just as Jesus rebuked Satan in the wilderness—“Away from me, Satan!”—He rebuked Peter as well.

Reaching for God’s Kingdom without carrying a cross—that has always been humanity’s sin.
We want victory without sacrifice, glory without suffering, and resurrection without crucifixion.
But Jesus knows you can’t skip the cross and still reach the Kingdom.
The road to real life runs straight through surrender and sacrifice, while trusting God’s plan.

The Disciples’ Cross
So Jesus tells His disciples (and us) plainly what it really means to follow Him.

“Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.”

Following Him means surrender, sacrifice, and dying to self. 

Yet Jesus also gives a surprising promise:  “Whoever loses their life for me will find it.” 
The cross is not the end of life—it is the path to true life.

So each of us must ask: What are we really trying to gain in this life? Comfort? Success? Approval? These things can be appealing, but if gaining them costs us our soul, they are a terrible bargain.

The Transfiguration
For many years I misunderstood the last verse of this passage.
I thought Jesus was talking about His second coming.
That was confusing, because He says that some of the disciples standing there would not die before they saw the Son of Man coming in His kingdom.
But all of those disciples eventually died, and Jesus has not yet returned in that final way.

But that’s not what Jesus was referring to.
Jesus was pointing to something that was about to happen very soon. In the very next chapter, Matthew tells us that six days later Jesus took Peter, James, and John up onto a mountain.
There, something remarkable happened. Jesus was transfigured before them. His face shone like the sun, His clothes became dazzling white, and Moses and Elijah appeared talking with Him.

For a moment, those disciples saw Jesus as He truly is—the King in all His glory.
It was a glimpse of the true Kingdom.

And that moment is very important. Jesus had just told His disciples about suffering,
about crosses, about losing their lives.
But then, He allowed a few of them to see the glory that lies beyond the cross.

The Kingdom of Jesus is not only something that comes after suffering.
Sometimes, God allows us to see glimpses of His glory even while we carry the cross.
And that matters for us.
Because what Jesus said today is heavy. He has told us that following Him means sacrifice.
But the life of a Christian is not all doom and gloom.
It is a life where suffering and glory are strangely intertwined.
Along the road of discipleship there are moments when Christ lets us see His beauty—
moments of peace, moments of grace, moments when His presence becomes so clear that we know we are walking the right road.

The cross is real. But so is the glory.  So be encouraged. Be brave.
And follow Jesus with determination.

Yes, there will be suffering along the way. But there will also be glimpses of His Kingdom—glimpses of the glory of the One we follow.

And one day, the glory we glimpse now will no longer be hidden.
One day we will see Him fully, face to face.

Closing
But today, we need to accept the cross.  Don't let your hope in Christ be a worldly human thing where you settle for a cheap victory without suffering.  Because Jesus says, "If you want to be my disciple, you must deny yourself and take up your cross and follow me."

 

Jesus Gives Us Rest | A Sermon on Matthew 11:28-30

Introduction Well, we finally have all our stuff moved down to Jackson. Now the fun begins - unpacking.

All this moving got me thinking about the burdens we carry in life.  We all have stuff to carry.  Even people in Jesus’ day had stuff to carry.  Jesus knew it and invited them to make sure they were carrying the right stuff.

Matthew 11:28-30
28 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens” (v. 28)
Everyone is carrying something.  Some burdens are self-imposed (expectations, guilt, control, pride). Some burdens are imposed on us by the world (work, grief, injustice, trauma, pressure). Some burdens are spiritual (sin, shame, fear, striving to prove ourselves). All these burdens weigh us down and wear us down.  They make us weary.

We decided to downsize our home when we moved, because we're now empty nesters. No need for as much space as we had when we were parents with three young kids. So we got rid of a lot of stuff before we moved. But not enough. We still have too much for our smaller home. So we'll be giving more away--donating, selling, or throwing away.

In life, you can’t carry everything; it’s too much.  Before we become Christian, we carry all the things the world tells us to carry. And then, when we decide to follow Jesus, if we try to carry all our former stuff and all our Christian stuff too, it's just too much. What are you going to set aside so you can follow Christ?

Jesus comes to us and says: “If you’re weary from carrying heavy burdens, come to me!” He doesn’t want to add guilt to your already heavy load.  He doesn’t scold us by chiding, “Try harder!  Put your back into it!  You’re doing it wrong!” He just says:  “Come to me.”  And He says:

“Take My yoke upon you” (v. 29)
A yoke is a farming implement used to attach a heavy load for oxen, mules, or horses to pull. Jesus uses the image to indicate the work he has for us to do.

I don’t want you to miss this:  Jesus isn’t offering a burden free life.  He says, “Take My yoke upon you.”  So there’s still something to carry. Following Jesus still involves responsibility.  There is still obedience.  There is still work, sacrifice, and faithfulness.  But Christ’s yoke is something different we carry.

Christ’s yoke is:

• Shared - We don’t carry it alone.  We work with other Christians. (Oxen work in teams,)

• Guided - Oxen don’t decide where they go, they are guided by a plowman.

• Purposeful - So much of life seems to have no meaning.  If you ask someone, "Why are you doing that?" Can they give you an answer? Unfortunately, the answer is often simple "It's what everyone else is doing" or "I guess it's just what everyone says you're supposed to do."

Most importantly—carrying Christ’s yoke assumes a relationship with the Master. Jesus doesn’t hand us a yoke and walk away.  He says:  “I am gentle and humble in heart.” He doesn’t drive us harshly.  He doesn’t shame us when we stumble. He doesn’t discard us when we’re tired or used up. Christ cares about His people and He proved how much by dying for us on the cross. We are more than cattle to Jesus.  He gave His life for us! We are His friends. We are His brothers and sisters.

“Learn from Me” — Training to Bear the Yoke
Jesus says:  “Learn from Me.”  Oxen have to be trained to bear a load properly.  They’re living creatures with a mind of their own, but they’re not smart enough to see the bigger picture of the work being done.

The farmer is the one who sees a field and thinks, "This would be a great place to grow some wheat. It needs to be plowed up, fertilized, planted with a certain variety of wheat, and irrigated. He knows all the steps it will take to make the field fruitful. Nut the oxen don't know. They need a farmer (or a plowman) to lead them.

Jesus’ invitation implies we don’t know how to carry life rightly either.  It's true. We make a mess of things. And so we have to learn. And Jesus wants to teach us.

Learning takes time.  Just because you say yes to Jesus today, doesn’t mean you’ll be fully trained tomorrow.  Following Jesus is a process, not a switch that gets flipped.

In Jesus’ day, a young ox was often yoked with a seasoned one.  The young ox learned how to pull by
listening to the master’s voice and following the example of the more experienced ox. If the ox resisted the master’s voice, it led to a lot of wasted energy (and possibly getting someone hurt!).  If it pulled its own way, it led to exhaustion, frustration, and futility. But once trained, the work flowed smoothly, the load felt lighter, and the relationship brought order and peace.

We are not called to carry life alone—we are called to stay close to Christ and learn His pace, follow His direction, and go His way.

“My yoke is easy… My burden is light” (v. 30)
One thing you need to know about my family.  We love animals.  We have lots of pets--2 dogs 4 cats, and 3 chickens!

If you have pets you love, you probably know every detail about them. I know that Roy Bob is so fat his back is flat like an aircraft carrier! I know he loves 2 things most in life (in this order): He loves to eat and he loves to be the center of yoru attention and affection. I know his ears are soft and silky, but Winston's are wiry and scruffy. I know Winston will bark at any sight or sound he thinks he sees (even if nothing is there). But I also know he will run and hide if any real danger might be near because he's a total coward! Do you know your pets like me?

A good farmer in Jesus' day knew his oxen well.  They knew every curve of their neck, their temperament, what spooked them, and what motivated them. They often had yokes handcrafted to fit specific animals to ensure proper fit, prevent chafing & injury.  

And a good farmer cared about his animals and Jesus cares about us and His yoke fits perfectly because He knows everything about us. The Gospel of John says Jesus was there in the beginning when the world was created. Jeremiah said He formed us in our mother's womb. He designed our very DNA and knows what’s best for us--even better than we know for ourselves.

And Jesus designed a yoke specifically to fit you. It is well-tailored and fits so naturally sometimes you forget it’s there. And His yoke gives you meaning and purpose. Serving becomes a pleasure, not a chore. He empowers you to bear much fruit instead of burning out in a wasted life. Somehow, mysteriously, work starts to feel like rest.

When I was growing up, I’ve always had a technically minded, engineering-type brain. I like systems, how things work, how pieces fit together. So when I started thinking about my future, I thought, This makes sense. Engineering meant good pay, job security, and maybe even living in one place my whole life.

So I went to school and earned a degree in textile engineering, and I got a job at 1888 Mills in Griffin. I enjoyed the work. It fit the way my mind works.

But at the end of the day, something was still missing. I realized this wasn’t my purpose. Somewhere along the way, God made it clear that while I had an engineer’s mind, He had given me a shepherd’s heart—a desire to serve Him, lead His people, and build His Church.

It was as if the Lord said, This is how I designed you. Do this instead.

So I made the change. Not because I’m perfect or especially gifted, but because when you step into what God created you to do, something just fits. There’s meaning there.

And even on hard days—even when ministry is difficult—I can honestly say this: I’m glad I’m doing what God made me to do.

The world’s burdens don’t fit.  They rub us raw.  They wear us down.  And once we’re used up, Satan simply discards us and looks for another person to consume. The Enemy doesn’t care about you and a world led by Satan doesn’t care about you either.

The Choice Before Us
Jesus invites us to trust Him enough to trade our broken yoke for His perfect one. The rest Jesus offers is not an escape—it’s learning to live life the way it was meant to be lived.

As we close, I’d like to invite you to take a minute to reflect as I ask you a few questions:

• What burdens are you carrying that Jesus never asked you to carry?

• Where are you resisting His teaching?

• Are you walking close enough to Jesus to hear His voice?

And lastly, I'd like to invite you to follow Jesus. It's Jesus' invitation really. He says, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

Mary's Song | A Sermon on Luke 1:46-55

Introduction
I’ve always felt like Christmas and music naturally go together. When I was a little boy, that was one of my favorite parts of the season. Even as a young child, our family was always singing Christmas carols—whether we were at home, riding in the car, or out running errands.

Honestly, I think my mom used singing to keep us occupied. We didn’t have smartphones back then, and half the time we weren’t even buckled in. We were just bouncing around the car while she tried to do her Christmas shopping with four kids in tow. She needed something to keep us under control, so she sang carols with us.

Those memories are deeply ingrained in me, and I think it’s fitting—because music has always been a part of Christmas.

Over the next few weeks, we will study the songs of Christmas from the Bible. In the Bible, Christmas has always had music.  Not about snow or mistletoe; about Jesus. Several prophecies, songs, and psalms in the Old Testament foretold Jesus’ birth. And in the New Testament we have the angels singing gloria to announce the birth to shepherds. But, before angels sang, before shepherds rejoiced, before wise men bowed—there was a young girl who trusted God enough to bear His Son.  And Mary sang a song about it.  Mary’s Song (also known as Mary’s Magnificat) is found in Luke 1:46-55.

Luke 1:46-55
⁴⁶ Mary responded,
“Oh, how my soul praises the Lord.
⁴⁷     How my spirit rejoices in God my Savior!
⁴⁸ For he took notice of his lowly servant girl,
    and from now on all generations will call me blessed.
⁴⁹ For the Mighty One is holy,
    and he has done great things for me.
⁵⁰ He shows mercy from generation to generation
    to all who fear him.
⁵¹ His mighty arm has done tremendous things!
    He has scattered the proud and haughty ones.
⁵² He has brought down princes from their thrones
    and exalted the humble.
⁵³ He has filled the hungry with good things
    and sent the rich away with empty hands.
⁵⁴ He has helped his servant Israel
    and remembered to be merciful.
⁵⁵ For he made this promise to our ancestors,
    to Abraham and his children forever.”

Who Was Mary?
When Mary sang this beautiful song of praise, she was likely only about 13 years old. In her culture, girls typically married between 13 and 16.

She came from an obscure little town—Nazareth—and yet she carried an extraordinary lineage. Most people know she was a descendant of King David, but they often forget she was also connected to the priestly line of Aaron. That means Jesus was born to her both as King and Priest—the perfect fulfillment of God’s plan.

Mary was a woman of deep faith, humility, and trust. And that matters, because we often think praise is something we offer after God answers our prayers—when life is good, when things make sense. But Mary praised God before any of it made sense. She trusted God even though His plan would first lead her through hardship.

She was betrothed to Joseph but not yet married, and now she was pregnant—claiming, truthfully, that the child was conceived by the Holy Spirit. Imagine having to explain that to your parents, your neighbors, and to Joseph, the man preparing to marry you. It wasn’t just embarrassing—it was dangerous. In her culture, an unwed pregnancy could cost you your life.

And yet Mary still said, “My soul magnifies the Lord.”

Mary Praises God
She sees and trusts that God is going to do great things. She even says, “He has done great things for me.” Now, most people in a life-threatening, humiliating situation like hers wouldn’t be saying, “God has done great things for me.” But Mary does. Through the eyes of faith, she looks far beyond her present circumstances and says, “Generations will call me blessed.”

How many of us have that kind of faith when we’re facing difficulty? When the situation seems overwhelming—when all we can see is sorrow, struggle, or hardship—can we still say, “The Lord has done great things for me”?

Can you see beyond the obstacle in front of you to the blessing God intends to bring in the future?

The Great Reversal
Mary sings about the dramatic changes God is going to bring through her Son. Her song announces what I call the Great Reversal. God is going to overturn the usual way the world works.

He scatters the proud and exalts the humble.
He fills the hungry and sends the rich away empty.

These are powerful statements. In fact, they can even be threatening. They were in Jesus’ day. There were powerful people—religious, political, and wealthy—who thought very highly of themselves, dressed in fine clothes, and expected everyone else to look up to them. And then there were the lowly—poor, dirty, ignored, and pushed aside.

Yet Mary declares that God is going to reverse all of it.
He will lift up the humble.
He will bring down the proud.
He will feed the hungry, and the rich will walk away empty-handed.

And this dynamic hasn’t been unique to Jesus’ day. It has existed in every time and every place. What we might see as a harmless little passage has often been viewed as dangerous.

Did you know this passage has actually been outlawed or banned by several governments?

• During British rule in India (1910s–1940s), authorities discouraged Indian Christians from reading Mary’s Song because it inspired hope for the oppressed.

• In the 1930s and 40s, Nazi Germany also restricted it for the same reason.

• Other regimes have done likewise, fearing its message of God overturning unjust power.

When people cling to their own kingdom—when they want to stay in control—Mary’s song is a threat. It declares, “It’s not about you. It’s about God’s kingdom.”  Some people don’t like that.

So what does this Great Reversal mean for us?  Most of us may not feel wealthy, but compared to much of the world, we are. We have resources. We have influence. We like to be respected. And Mary’s Song reminds us:

Stay humble.
Don’t be too proud.  Take pride in your work, but don’t think the world revolves around you.  Don’t look down on others because they have less.  Don’t think you are better than anyone else.  If pride takes root, Mary warns us: Christ will scatter the proud and lift up the humble.

And don’t trust in your riches.
The Bible doesn’t condemn having wealth—many heroes of faith were wealthy. The issue isn’t possession, but dependence.  The danger comes when we trust our wealth, our position, or our status more than we trust the Lord. Wealth can disappear in a moment. It cannot save us, protect us, or give us identity.

Our trust must be in God alone.  Because God, through Christ, still scatters the proud, exalts the humble, fills the hungry, and sends the rich away empty.

The Greatest Reversal
But Mary’s not just singing of social reversals.  She is announcing the greatest reversal in human history.  As Isaac Watts wrote in Joy to the World:  “No more let sins and sorrows grow, Nor thorns infest the ground! He comes to make His blessings flow Far as the curse is found Far as the curse is found Far as, far as the curse is found.”

Jesus reverses the curse of Genesis 3,
the curse brought on us by Adam and Eve’s sin in the garden.  

You may remember the specifics of the curse: pain in childbirth.  But as I thought about that this morning, it’s not just the pain of childbirth—it’s also the pain of raising children.  There are all kinds of pain wrapped up in parenting.  Sometimes it’s as simple—and as heartbreaking—as watching your kids grow up and move out. There’s a joy in seeing them become who God created them to be, but it also leaves a hole where they once were. That’s a kind of pain you can’t avoid—and honestly, you wouldn’t want to. It means they’re growing.

There’s also the pain that comes from generational differences.  I hear my kids talk sometimes and think, “They’re just young whippersnappers—they have no idea!” And then I remember I used to think my parents views seemed old-fashioned to me; and now my kids think my views are old-fashioned. And one day their kids will think the same about them. Every generation thinks differently. That’s part of the curse—this tension, this inability to fully see eye to eye.

Then there’s the curse on marriage.  God told Eve that her relationship with Adam would be strained:
“Your husband will rule over you.”  In other words, what was once perfect unity would now be marked by conflict, power struggles, and misunderstandings.

There’s also the curse on the ground.  God told Adam he would have to scratch out a living from the dust and that the soil itself would fight him—thorns and thistles instead of fruit. That’s why I love that line from the hymn Joy to the World:  “No more let sins and sorrows grow, nor thorns infest the ground.”

Imagine being a gardener with no weeds, no thistles, no pests… everything you plant just springs up beautifully. Anyone who has ever worked in a garden knows that is not the world we live in. Gardening is often a battle.

And finally, there is the curse of physical death.  Our bodies wear out. We grow tired. And eventually, we pass away.  

But Jesus came to reverse all of this.  Imagine:

• No more pain in childbirth—or in raising children

• No more strain in marriage, but perfect unity and harmony

• No more curse on the ground—work becoming joy instead of toil

• No more physical death—eternal life with our King

This is what Mary is singing about.  
Her Son came to undo the curse and restore the world to what God always intended it to be.

Closing
Mary didn’t fully understand God’s plan. 
She didn’t know she’d flee to Egypt.
She didn’t know she’d watch her Son die for the sins of the world.
She didn’t know He would rise from the tomb.

But she knew this: 
God keeps His promises.  God sees the humble.  God lifts the lowly. God saves His people. 
And so she sang.

The first Christmas carol is not about nostalgia, snow, or sleigh bells.
The first Christmas carol was sung by a teenage girl who believed the impossible—
that God was about to undo the Curse and rewrite human history.

The same God who did great things for Mary wants to do great things in you.

The same God who brought His Son into the world through her trust
is still looking for people who will say, 
“I am the Lord’s servant. May everything you have said about me come true.”

So today, as we enter this Advent season,
may your soul magnify the Lord,
may your spirit rejoice in God your Savior,
and may you trust that Christ has come to reverse every curse, heal every wound,
and make “His blessings flow far as the curse is found”—even to you.

 

Give Thanks in Everything | A Sermon on 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Introduction
Thanksgiving is this Thursday.  I’m thankful Kelly doesn’t have to work and our kids are all coming up.  Since my wife works as a nurse in a hospital, it is rare that she is off and we can all gather to celebrate the holiday on the actual Thanksgiving day.

Thanksgiving is something Christians should strive to practice everyday.  Gratitude is a lifestyle. A thankful heart is possible when we root our life in Christ, not in our circumstances.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
¹⁶ Always be joyful. ¹⁷ Never stop praying. ¹⁸ Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

“Always Be Joyful.” (verse 16)
This is one of the shortest—and yet most challenging—commands in Scripture.  So let’s take a closer look at it.  Verse 16 says, “Always be joyful.”

You might think it’s impossible to always be joyful.  There are so many difficult times in our lives where it seems impossible to be happy
But it is possible if you understand what Paul really means.

Paul is not saying:
Always be happy.  Every person has ups and downs. Sometimes you're happy, sometimes you're sad. Some people are more even-keeled than others. Other people are really happy one moment and really sad the next. But joy is not the same as being happy. Paul is not saying, “Be happy at all times.” He's saying, “Be joyful.”

He's also not saying we should pretend everything is fine. We know bad things and evil things happen, and it's okay to acknowledge it. You don't have to pretend. 

Paul is not saying we should ignore grief or pain.  We all go through pain. When someone dies that we love, we grieve for them. And it’s important that we don’t pretend we're not sad or grieving, because that's not healthy and it will come out in other ways. But joy can exist even in the midst of grief. And I want to tell you this—joy is more remarkable, real joy is more remarkable because of pain. When you see someone who is full of joy even though they are full of pain, that is wonderful.  It's remarkable.

Paul is saying:
Choose joy because your joy is in Jesus, not in circumstances.  This is important because circumstances change, feelings rise and fall, but Christ is constant.  We can choose joy because our joy is in Christ and Jesus is always the same.

A Thermometer vs. Thermostat
How many of you are cooking a turkey this week?  When we cook our turkey, we use two important tools that are related (and sound similar), but have different functions.  We use a thermometer and a themostat.  A thermometer measures the temperature of the food.  It reacts to the conditions.  A thermostat tells the oven what temperature to aim for.  It controls the environment.

Most people act like thermometers.  They simply react to whatever is happening around them.  If good things are happening they are happy.  If bad things, they are sad, angry, depressed.  They simply reflect whatever’s happening around them.

Christians who choose joy are like thermostats.  They tell their life what attitude to aim for. We aim for the joy that we have in Christ. We may not be there yet—we may not be in a joyful environment—but we're aiming for Christ, and He changes our life.  Christians who chose joy bring the energy that changes the world around them and makes it more joyful.  The source of that energy is the Holy Spirit.  It is the light of Christ burning within us, even in a dark world.

“Never stop praying.” (verse 17)
Verse 17 says, “Never stop praying.”  You might think it’s impossible to never stop praying. But it is possible if you understand what Paul really means.

Paul is not commanding nonstop verbal prayer. Paul is describing a posture of prayer—constant communion, continual awareness of God’s presence.

Prayer fuels gratitude because:
You stay connected to the Source of peace. Remember Jesus in the boat during the storm? He was asleep while the disciples panicked. Jesus could rest because He was connected to the Father. When we stay connected to Jesus, we can have peace even in our storms.

Prayer fuels gratitude because you are reminded you are not alone. Think about Jesus in Gethsemane. Facing the cross, He prayed. He prayed so He would remember He was not alone—His Father was with Him. If Jesus needed prayer, so do we.

Prayer fuels gratitude because you begin to see God working in the everyday moments. My wife and I have been preparing to sell our home. A photographer came yesterday, but it was raining and overcast. Kelly kept praying, “Lord, just let the sun break through for a few minutes.” And at the exact moment the photographer arrived, the clouds broke and sunlight lit up the front of our house. Some call that coincidence—I call it God answering her prayer. And when you begin to thank God for moments like that, you start seeing His presence everywhere.

Prayer is like breathing. When it’s healthy, you don’t even notice it. But when your breathing is off—like with a cold or a sinus infection—you notice it immediately. Prayer is like that. When your prayer life is sick, nothing else seems to work well. So maintain a posture of continual prayer, and it will change your attitude.

“Be thankful in all circumstances…”
As with the other statements in this passage, it seems impossible to “be thankful in all circumstances.”  How can anyone possible do that?  But look closer at Paul’s statement.

Paul does not say: “Be thankful for all circumstances…”  Some things are evil, tragic, or heartbreaking.  God does not expect you to be thankful for evil or injustice or loss.

However, Paul does say: “Be thankful in all circumstances…” because God is working in all things for the good of those who love Him.  

We can give thanks in everything because God is with us in every circumstance, Christ redeems all suffering, nothing is wasted in God’s hands, and our hope is eternal, not temporary.  Remember, gratitude isn’t a reaction to blessings.  Gratitude is an acknowledgment of God’s faithfulness in all circumstances—even when life is hard.

“…for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”
Now Paul tell us why we should live in these challenge ways.  It is God's will for you.  

Understand this:  God’s will for you is not primarily about where you work, where you live, or  who you marry.  God cares about all these things in your life, but they are not the main focus.  

God’s will is for you about who you are deep down inside. God wants you to have a joyful spirit, a prayerful heart, and a grateful lifestyle.  These characteristics will last forever and change everything about how you see the world, your circumstances, and your purpose.

The Thanksgiving Lifestyle
If we want to shift our attitude about thanksgiving from a holiday we celebrate once a year to a lifestyle where we give thanks every day, it requires at least three changes.

The first change is from occasional gratitude to daily gratitude.   Thank God for small things—sunrise, breath, warm home, friendship.

The second change is from focusing on our circumstances to focusing on Christ. Circumstances change; Christ never does.  Don’t let what’s happening around you control your attitude. Instead, keep your eyes on Jesus and trust Him no matter what’s going on.”

The third change is from reactive thanks to intentional thanks.  Don’t let your thankfulness depend on your mood or the moment. Choose to be grateful on purpose, not just when life goes your way.

This shift doesn’t happen overnight.  But with practice we can live out Paul’s instruction to live a thankful lifestyle.  Here’s some ways to practice thankful living this week.

1. Wake up every day with a prayer of gratitude. Before your feet hit the floor, say, “Thank You, Lord, for this new day.”

2. Keep a list of things you’re thankful for. Write them down throughout the day.

3. Turn complaints into prayers. When you want to complain, pause and thank God instead.

4. Express gratitude to one person daily. Send a note, a text, or say a simple thank-you.

5. End your day with a prayer of thanks. Review your blessings and say, “Thank You, Lord.”

Closing Prayer
Lord, we thank You for Your goodness to us. Help us stretch our Thanksgiving Day into a Thanksgiving lifestyle—365 days a year. Teach us to be thankful in every circumstance, because our gratitude is anchored not in our circumstances but in You, whose faithful love endures forever. In Christ’s name we pray. Amen.