Introduction
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Of the 40
generations of men in Jesus family tree listed in Matthew 1:1-16, only five women are named. It’s amazing any women are named at all,
since the patriarchal custom of the biblical writers was to omit women. So, the fact that these five particular women
are named is a clue there’s something very special about them and we need to pay
close attention. And yet, these five heroines
of our faith are not famous for the things you would think. Every one of their situations was scandalous in
some way or another.
Tamar was impregnated by her father-in-law. Yet she was also wise and cunning. She sensed God’s hand at work in the family of Judah’s and was willing to do anything to be part of it.
Rahab was a Canaanite prostitute who grasped her chance to break free from sin and destruction by professing her faith in God and joining His holy people.
Ruth was a destitute foreign refugee who clung to God and His people and found redemption.
Bathsheba had an affair with the king and lost her child, but she became a queen who advocated for the oppressed and powerless.
Rahab was a Canaanite prostitute who grasped her chance to break free from sin and destruction by professing her faith in God and joining His holy people.
Ruth was a destitute foreign refugee who clung to God and His people and found redemption.
Bathsheba had an affair with the king and lost her child, but she became a queen who advocated for the oppressed and powerless.
Today, we will
consider the best-known of the five women in Jesus genealogy—Mary, the mother
of Jesus.
Matthew 1:16-25
Jacob was the father of Joseph, the husband of Mary.
Mary gave birth to Jesus, who is called the Messiah.
Mary gave birth to Jesus, who is called the Messiah.
17 All those listed above include fourteen generations from Abraham
to David, fourteen from David to the Babylonian exile, and fourteen from the
Babylonian exile to the Messiah.
18 This is how Jesus the Messiah was born. His mother, Mary, was
engaged to be married to Joseph. But before the marriage took place, while she
was still a virgin, she became pregnant through the power of the Holy Spirit. 19 Joseph, to whom she was engaged, was a
righteous man and did not want to disgrace her publicly, so he decided to break
the engagement quietly.
20 As he considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a
dream. “Joseph, son of David,” the angel said, “do not be afraid to take Mary
as your wife. For the child within her was conceived by the Holy Spirit. 21 And she will have a son, and you are to name
him Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”
22 All of this occurred to fulfill the Lord’s message through his
prophet:
23 “Look! The virgin will conceive a child!
She will give birth to a son,
and they will call him Immanuel,
which means ‘God is with us.’”
She will give birth to a son,
and they will call him Immanuel,
which means ‘God is with us.’”
24 When Joseph woke up, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded and
took Mary as his wife. 25 But he did not have sexual relations with her
until her son was born. And Joseph named him Jesus.
Joseph
Joseph is not Jesus'
biological father. However, the Gospel
of Matthew spends 16 verses telling us Jesus' lineage through Joseph.
What does that say? One thing it says is
Joseph adopted Jesus as his very own son.
Joseph treated Jesus as his flesh and blood and there was no distinction
in his heart or mind that Jesus wasn't his actual son, even though the
relationship wasn't biological. How many have known this special adoptive love that treats one as a son and
daughter by choice? Think about it: most people do not get to choose their parents. You are born and your biological father and
mother are who they are, like it or not.
And parents are compelled by the laws of nature to love their biological
children. On the other hand, adoption
is an actual choice. An adoptive parent
chooses to accept and love their adopted child.
Nature does not require it. And it
is a very special kind of love when someone chooses to adopt a child who is not
their biological son or daughter. The same could be true for step parents who chose to love their step children as their very own.
It is worth noting
here the situation into which Jesus was to be born. Jesus, the most important man who ever lived,
who is the Son of God, was born in need of adoption. He grew up in the home of a father who was not related by blood. Mary was his mother, but Joseph was under no
obligation whatsoever to accept Jesus.
Yet Joseph chose to adopt God’s
Only Begotten Son as his own.
But what of Mary?
Who is she?
Mary, the Mother of
Jesus
Mary has been famous
to Christians for 2,000 years. She is so
integral to our faith she is named in the Apostles’ Creed, “We believe in Jesus Christ… who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born
of the virgin Mary…” Some people admire Mary so much they treat her like a
goddess, even praying to her. Who is this fascinating mother?
The Bible does not focus on Mary. After the stories of Jesus’ conception and
birth, Mary is only mentioned 12 more times. Mary is there in the background throughout
the story of the New Testament, but never as the focus. The focus is always on Christ—the Son of God,
the Savior of the world. Even so, Mary
is there at the birth, she is there in the midst of Jesus’ ministry (struggling
to understand like the rest of us). She
is there at the cross as her son dies, at the tomb when he rose from the grave,
and she continues to help lead the church with the Disciples in the Book of Acts after
Christ ascended to heaven.
There is absolutely no description in the Bible of what Mary
looked like or how she dressed. In our world today, we are very focused on how women look, what
clothes and makeup they wear, hairstyles, body image, etc. However, the Bible mentions nothing
about Mary’s appearance. That tells us these
physical things were not important.
Maybe they shouldn’t be as important to us either. From God’s perspective (the perspective that
really matters) true beauty has nothing to do with physical appearance or fashion. The true beauty of a woman comes from the way
she responds to God.
Mary would have been a young girl when the angel Gabriel came to her (probably only about 12 or 13 years old) . That was the age most first century girls were
offered for marriage in Galilee. Mary was
engaged, so we know she was of age. What
do you think of when you think of Mary? You might think of a young woman just out of college between the ages of 20-30 years old because that’s the typical age women get married in our culture.
Let me blow your mind a bit. My daughter,
Abigail turns 13 in one month. Right
now, Abigail is the age Mary would have been when she became pregnant with the
Son of God.
Mary was engaged to Joseph. She was an ordinary girl
looking forward to marriage and a normal life, but the angel’s visit changed
her life forever. Mary was afraid and
troubled by Gabriel. She never expected the incredible news she would have a
child or that her son would be the Messiah. Although she couldn’t comprehend
how she would conceive the Savior, she responded to God with belief and
obedience.
Although it was a huge honor to be chosen by God, her calling would demand great
suffering. Just as there is pain in
childbirth and motherhood, there would be much pain in the privilege of being
the mother of the Messiah. Mary was a willing servant. She
trusted God and she obeyed His call.
The
angel told Mary in Luke 1:28 that she was highly favored by God. This
means Mary was given a large portion of grace or "undeserved favor" from God.
Even with God's favor, Mary would still suffer much. Though she has come to be highly honored as the mother of the Savior, she would first know disgrace as
an unwed mother. She almost lost her fiancé. Risked being stoned to death (the penalty for pregnancy out of wedlock in her time). Her precious child would grow up to be rejected
and cruelly murdered. Mary's submission
to God's plan would cost her dearly, but she was willing to be God's servant.
Mary was a woman of rare faith and obedience.
Misunderstandings
We are
deeply in debt to Mary. Her willing obedience
to God brought the Savior into our world.
It's no wonder that people for thousands of years have sought to honor
Mary, the mother of the Messiah.
Unfortunately, there is something in human nature that leads people to
idolize and worship those we especially admire.
Some
venerate Mary as divine. They even say Mary—like
Jesus—never sinned (a doctrine known as The Immaculate Conception). The Bible never says Mary was without sin. To the contrary, the Bible tells us in Romans
3:23, “All have sinned and fallen
short of God’s glory.” Every person who
ever lived has sinned at some point—including Mary. Furthermore, we see that Mary struggled to
understand Jesus’ ministry just like his Disciples. At one point in the Gospels, Mary shows up along with her other sons and attempts to take Jesus home with her because they thought he was crazy (Mark 3:21, 31). She didn't understand. You seen, Mary was not perfect. She was a sinner in need of God’s grace and
salvation just like you and me. 2
Corinthians 5:21 says, “For God made Christ, who never
sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right
with God through Christ.” It is through
Jesus Christ that Mary is saved—just like you and me.
Conclusion
What do you see when you think of
Mary? You may be tempted to picture the
perfect women portrayed in the porcelain nativity scene sculpted by an artist. Is that the real Mary? Is that who you think you need to emulate?
I urge you not to
turn Mary into some mythical figure. Let
her be the real girl she was in the Gospel.
The real story is much more compelling than the myth. Mary was
young, poor, and female in a time when women were not highly regarded. She was a real mother who faced
real challenges. She had no special powers
or abilities that you don’t have. All
she had was a willing and obedient heart.
God saw her faith and obedience and He helped her succeed. You
don’t have to be perfect for God to choose you or help you—you just need to be
willing and obey.
Mary was
like so many mothers. She was there in
the background the whole time nurturing, supporting, and encouraging. She had too much to do and never enough time to do it. She wasn't a super mom; she was just a regular person depending on God to help her through. She was not the central character in the
story, but that’s OK. She never needed
the focus to be on her. To the contrary,
she must have recognized as she came to understand more fully who her son was
that the focus should always be on him instead of her.
Jesus is Lord, not Mary. Jesus is
the Savior, not Mary. Jesus is the one
who takes away our sins, who answers our prayers, who directs our path.
I think
it would disturb Mary if we spent too much time honoring her. She would say, “Why are you giving me all
this attention? Don’t look to me! Don’t worship me! I’m just a person like
you. Please! Please, look at my Son over
there! Isn’t he wonderful?” Oh that we
all had that attitude. This life is not
about us! It is about Christ! “Turn your
eyes upon Jesus! Look full in his
wonderful face and the ting of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of
his glory and grace!”
And Mary’s
life encourages us to be the best we can be—not because she was perfect, but—because
she was just an ordinary girl. You don’t
have to be perfect or even special to make a difference. Mary was just an ordinary young girl who was
willing to be the mother God wanted her to be.
Are you willing to obey God’s plan for your life? Do you trust God to take what you have to
offer and use it for the glory of His Kingdom?
That’s the story of Mary, the mother of Jesus.